My older brother – better known as “Uncle Beardo” – told me about a quote stated by the former Southern General “Stonewall” Jackson, “never take counsel of your fears.” This quote was taken from an LDS church leader’s commencement talk to graduating college students in reference to facing the future, in other words, “Go Forward With Faith.”
In 2008, I had this overwhelming feeling to travel somewhere one morning on my commute to work. I frequently get this urge, but this time it was different. I showed up to work and my close friend and manager was on the phone – when I walked into her office, she said, “hey Kate, do you want to go to Mexico?” First words out of my mouth, “yeah, sounds like fun.”
My friend hung up the phone and immediatly bought two airplane tickets to Mexico and said, “you can pay me back, I know you’re good for it.” I started having a panic attack – not because I didn’t have the money, because I did – I wasn’t actually prepared to spend a huge wad of money, even though traveling was really important to me.
For a few weeks, I wavered back and forth about the idea of spending a large sum of money that had – in my mind – little return for the investment. My good friend talked the trip up and told me it was going to be a great adventure and I still questioned the trip up until the week before departure.
As soon as I decided I wanted to go on the trip – I was at peace – because it was what I really wanted. In this way, it makes me think of marriage and relationships: We get to, “choose our love” and we need to, “love our choice” (Neal A. Maxwell said, “Choose your love, love your choice”). When we come to peace with this information, we can know a greater happiness than we have known before.
Timing plays a big role in when and where to travel. I didn’t go into debt to travel to Mexico and I didn’t quit my job. I wasn’t married and I didn’t leave people or my financial obligations hanging. They were all still there when I returned to the states.
I live with my parents. My husband works and goes to school – we are not going into debt for our upcoming trip to Costa Rica. and we are taking our son.
There are many things in life that look like they don’t make sense, like taking a big trip – or bringing our young child on an foreign adventure, and jumping into marriage for that matter. But, those things are my choice and I feel at peace with my decisions.
So, I say don’t look at what other people are doing to gage what is right for you – talk to God, do what is right and you will have peace after you make a good choice – I’m not just talking about traveling.
Nos Vemos eh?