WEDDING DAY FOR BEN AND MARY – a day she will want to live over and over and over again….this was a pretty good day.
My infant son was so enthused about going to a wedding with my mother and I – we were so glad his enthusiasm didn’t ruin the ceremony. My son is one of Mary’s “babies.” Today, as the sanctuary filled up around us, I noticed hundreds of babies – literally. “Hazards” of being a midwife.
I love weddings – I always have – but going to a wedding after my marriage is even more fun. It is nice to remember the promises I made with my companion. The older couple sitting on the pew in front of me (with 9 children in tow) were sharing happy glances with one another during the ceremony remembering their promises.
My husband wasn’t there, but I was holding my son – who is a product of the love that Dan and I have – and I couldn’t think of a better addition to a marriage than children.
I didn’t know what to expect when it came to the ceremony. The ceremony was conducted with so much attention given to God first and second to the couple being united in marriage. Without God, what is a marriage?
A string quartet played before the ceremony began – a brass ensemble then played as the bride was walked down the aisle by her father. A prayer was given and an opening hymn followed. The father of the bride gave her away on behalf of he and his late wife (whom I’m positive was attending in spirit).
After the “I Do’s” were said, Ben and Mary shared a first kiss as husband and wife:
My husband and I’s first kiss was on February 2nd 2011 – we had just finished watching Groundhog’s Day (movie with Bill Murray – a favorite).
The baby was wet, tired and hungry – so I needed to go outside to get his diaper bag. On my way back inside I snapped the wedding departure vehicle:
When I returned to the reception I saw Eva, Mary’s birth assistant and one of the reasons I survived childbirth – she is a saint!
I wanted to snap a photo with her – the last time my son had contact with Eva was the wee hours of the morning of his birth.
Baby couldn’t be bothered with photographs – luckily it wasn’t his wedding day.
I grabbed my camera and put it around my neck – as I didn’t want to leave my expensive camera unattended while I went in search of a quiet and dark room to nurse the baby. I happen to find one…
The “quiet” room in the back of the sanctuary (behind glass) was the perfect place to nurse the baby and quietly watch husband and wife take photographs together. I felt like a fly on the wall, as I felt the joy they felt, I saw the smiles and the joy they had in being together. Lucky for me I had my camera.
When I finished nursing the baby – I walked back to the reception hall to discover the happy couple taking more photos together. Ben and Mary, if life should ever feel frustrating and you have difficulty liking each other for one reason or another – you will have a billion photos – look at them and remember.
I am no professional photographer – more of a casual observer – but it was really cool to walk by and take this photo:
Mary is looking at my camera lens and Ben is looking at the professional…. well, maybe it was because I was holding a baby too? Mary can’t resist those babies and any day now, she will have her own baby to cuddle.
If every day isn’t fun together – you’re doing it wrong – start over and think of the other person. Life is going to be great!