My two year old Wiley has been interesting lately. I understand why some people turn to alcohol…it might make days like today seem more tolerable.
I practiced my skills for patience, long suffering, charity and faith.
With each tantrum I talked myself into waiting patiently for the screaming to halt before I spoke, in a soft voice, and resisted the urge to put him in time out.
Time-outs aren’t always the answer; even if it might make me feel better.
What I don’t understand is why my two year old is screaming.
Which got me thinking about people in general.
What if I started applying the skills I’m learning from being a parent to the rest of the people in the world (maybe I already have…)?
What if I was slow to anger, quick to listen, chose love first, resisted the urge to punish, found a replacement to lecture?
I want peace in this time, I want peace now.
Valentine’s Day this year was the end of a very long streak of stresses, illness and emotional burn out…
Valentines was also the day I remembered to find humor in life, because I wanted to be happy.
The timing worked out really great, because it was the beginning of a week of blow-out diapers from both children.
Picture me in the store REI, trying to change a diaper (with ‘stuff’ running down Wiley’s leg), I have that ‘stuff’ all over the diamonds in my ring. There was also ‘stuff’ getting on the floor of the store. Wiley was wiggling around and smearing more ‘stuff’ – I may have said a word that only belongs in a toilet – which my two year old promptly repeated.
That’s when I knew I needed to change, a real change to, my approach in how I faced problems in life.
Wiley got a bath in the REI bathroom sink and I learned to find the humor to our situation. Humor can go a long way in (literally) a crappy situation or any kind of situation.
So, I have had ample opportunities since Valentine’s Day to practice my goal to improve charity, long suffering, patience and faith.
I did not pick up drinking today. I just reminded myself that I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me (Philippians 4:13), including smile in the face of opposition.
If I can’t achieve peace in the walls of my own home first, then I’ll be hard pressed to make peace in the world.