I got a phone call from a friend I haven’t spoken to since – 2008? Now that I count it up, almost a decade ago! Wow. Thank goodness for social media to help keep tabs on those friends!!
We talked of many things, but something that stayed on my mind was the feelings we shared in our ability to be good mothers.
After pondering on the matter for some time, the thought came into my mind that my children chose me.
They chose me.
Of all the brilliant, kind, talented mothers in the world, these kids chose me.
I don’t have any evidence to prove to you that this is true, it was just something that came to me and brought me peace.
I want to remember that feeling any time the temptation to feel inadequate creeps into my life.
They knew you before they came to this earth and thought, “yeah, you’re going to be the perfect fit!”
Keep trying your best. Keep giving them your time, your love, your hugs and kisses.
Keep praying that they will continue to grow up to become the incredible humans you pray they will be.
Keep taking the time to do the things they want to do – even if you can’t finish all the things you want to do.
They need you. They want you. They are your greatest treasure.
There are still long days ahead. They will need your guidance, your patience, your understanding and most importantly…
They need to know that you love them.
Each child will understand, feel and show love in different ways.
Just like you understand, feel and show love in different ways.
Take the time to learn how they communicate.
In time you will see that not only were you not inadequate, you were exactly who they needed you to be.
“Life must be understood backward. But… it must be lived forward.” -Søren Kierkegaard
In writing this open letter to myself I want other parents to know that you are doing better than you think you are.